Hello There Dad's,

I would like to wish all my fellow father's out there a happy father' day.Take care guys.



Jeff

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On 06/19/16, Jeff Smith said the following...

Hello There Dad's,

I would like to wish all my fellow father's out there a happy father' day.Take care guys.

You too Jeff (and all the Dads here), have a good one.. :)

Ttyl :-),
Al

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Hello There Dad's,

I would like to wish all my fellow father's out there a happy father' day. care guys.

Thanks and back to you. I was out of town this past Father's day.
Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.
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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Jeff Smith on 06-24-16 08:58 <=-

Hello There Dad's,
I would like to wish all my fellow father's out there a happy father' day. care guys.

Thanks and back to you. I was out of town this past Father's day.
Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

Indeed sounds like a nice way to celebrate Fathers Day... :) How many
kids does your son have...?

ttyl neb

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On 06/27/16, Jeff Smith said the following...

I recently found my son after not knowing where or how has been after 33 years of not seeing him. We are seriously working on building the relationship that we both have missed out on. I also now have two more grand-kids. <g>

Wow. Congratulations. This actually brought a tear to my eye. You have much catching up to do.

Ian

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Hello Ruben,

I would like to wish all my fellow father's out there a happy father' day. >> care guys.

Thanks and back to you. I was out of town this past Father's day.
Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

I recently found my son after not knowing where or how has been after 33 years of not seeing him. We are seriously working on building the relationship that we both have missed out on. I also now have two more grand-kids. <g>


Jeff

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Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

I recently found my son after not knowing where or how has been after 33

years

of not seeing him. We are seriously working on building the relationship

that

we both have missed out on. I also now have two more grand-kids. <g>

Jeff

That's great news! Best wishes.
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Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

Indeed sounds like a nice way to celebrate Fathers Day... :) How many
kids does your son have...?

ttyl neb

He has a son and a daughter. Son is 18 going to Arkansas this fall and daughter is 12.

Have another son who also has a son and daughter. The boy is 13 and the
girl is 9

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Hello Ian,

On 06/27/16, Jeff Smith said the following...

I recently found my son after not knowing where or how has been after 33
years of not seeing him. We are seriously working on building the
relationship that we both have missed out on. I also now have two more
grand-kids. <g>

Wow. Congratulations. This actually brought a tear to my eye. You have much catching up to do.

Thanks. I have spent years trying to track him down. A little over a month ago I got a PM on Facebook from a girl/women that I didn't know asking some odd questions. It turned out that she was my son's XYL. I am trying to help my son get to know (At his own speed) the brothers and sisters that he didn't know that he had. And a dad that has loved and missed him for many years. So far everything seems to be going good. He is a firefighter in Michigan and loves trains. <g>


Jeff

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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Nancy Backus on 06-28-16 17:49 <=-

Thanks and back to you. I was out of town this past Father's day. Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

Indeed sounds like a nice way to celebrate Fathers Day... :) How many kids does your son have...?

He has a son and a daughter. Son is 18 going to Arkansas this fall
and daughter is 12.

That must be the grandson that graduated from HS the week after your daughter...? :)

Have another son who also has a son and daughter. The boy is 13 and
the girl is 9

Do you get to see them much...?

ttyl neb

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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Nancy Backus on 06-28-16 17:49 <=-

Thanks and back to you. I was out of town this past Father's day.

Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

Indeed sounds like a nice way to celebrate Fathers Day... :) How many kids does your son have...?

He has a son and a daughter. Son is 18 going to Arkansas this fall
and daughter is 12.

That must be the grandson that graduated from HS the week after your daughter...? :)

Yes, that is correct.

Have another son who also has a son and daughter. The boy is 13 and the girl is 9

Do you get to see them much...?

Baby sit the kids during summer and after school during school year.
Pretty much daily each week.

ttyl neb

... some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal.

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Quoting Jeff Smith to Ian Mclaughlin on 06-29-16 10:10 <=-

I recently found my son after not knowing where or how has been after 33
years of not seeing him. We are seriously working on building the
relationship that we both have missed out on. I also now have two more
grand-kids. <g>

Wow. Congratulations. This actually brought a tear to my eye. You have
much catching up to do.

Thanks. I have spent years trying to track him down. A little over a
month ago I got a PM on Facebook from a girl/women that I didn't know asking some odd questions. It turned out that she was my son's XYL. I

And nice of her to be willing to do the legwork to try to track you down
for him... :)

am trying to help my son get to know (At his own speed) the brothers
and sisters that he didn't know that he had. And a dad that has loved
and missed him for many years. So far everything seems to be going
good. He is a firefighter in Michigan and loves trains. <g>

Sounds like he's turned out quite well, too... :) I'm glad you've reconnected... :)

ttyl neb

... The Borg assimilated my race, and all I got was this crummy tagline.

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Hello Nancy,

Quoting Jeff Smith to Ian Mclaughlin on 06-29-16 10:10 <=-

Wow. Congratulations. This actually brought a tear to my eye. You have
much catching up to do.

Thanks. I have spent years trying to track him down. A little over a
month ago I got a PM on Facebook from a girl/women that I didn't know
asking some odd questions. It turned out that she was my son's XYL. I

And nice of her to be willing to do the legwork to try to track you down
for him... :)

Yeah, they seem like a happy couple and she seems genuinely interested in helping him find his roots and building relationships.

am trying to help my son get to know (At his own speed) the brothers
and sisters that he didn't know that he had. And a dad that has loved
and missed him for many years. So far everything seems to be going
good. He is a firefighter in Michigan and loves trains. <g>

Sounds like he's turned out quite well, too... :) I'm glad you've reconnected... :)

Yes indeed. He was a shy boy when he was little. He seems to have matured into a good and caring adult. When I seen a picture of him and his family which included his son. I remarked to him that his son looks exactly like he did at that same age. One habit that my son had when he was a 3-4 year old was to find him sitting on the kitchen floor taste testing everything in the fridge.
<g> Seems HIS son does the same thing now that he is the same age.


Jeff

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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Nancy Backus on 06-30-16 02:45 <=-

Spent a week with my sone, his wife and my grandkids. Nice.

Indeed sounds like a nice way to celebrate Fathers Day... :) How many
kids does your son have...?

He has a son and a daughter. Son is 18 going to Arkansas this fall
and daughter is 12.

That must be the grandson that graduated from HS the week after your daughter...? :)

Yes, that is correct.

Thought so... :) The facts fit... ;)

Have another son who also has a son and daughter. The boy is 13 and the girl is 9

Do you get to see them much...?

Baby sit the kids during summer and after school during school year. Pretty much daily each week.

So they must live closer to you than the first son... :)

ttyl neb

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Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 07-01-16 09:04 <=-

Thanks. I have spent years trying to track him down. A little over a
month ago I got a PM on Facebook from a girl/women that I didn't know
asking some odd questions. It turned out that she was my son's XYL. I

And nice of her to be willing to do the legwork to try to track you down
for him... :)

Yeah, they seem like a happy couple and she seems genuinely interested
in helping him find his roots and building relationships.

That is a very good thing.. :)

am trying to help my son get to know (At his own speed) the brothers
and sisters that he didn't know that he had. And a dad that has loved
and missed him for many years. So far everything seems to be going
good. He is a firefighter in Michigan and loves trains. <g>

Sounds like he's turned out quite well, too... :) I'm glad you've reconnected... :)

Yes indeed. He was a shy boy when he was little. He seems to have
matured into a good and caring adult. When I seen a picture of him and
his family which included his son. I remarked to him that his son looks exactly like he did at that same age. One habit that my son had when he was a 3-4 year old was to find him sitting on the kitchen floor taste testing everything in the fridge. <g> Seems HIS son does the same thing now that he is the same age.

Now that's funny... :) And neat... :) How old was he when he was
taken out of your life...?

ttyl neb

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Have another son who also has a son and daughter. The boy is 13

and

the girl is 9

Do you get to see them much...?

Baby sit the kids during summer and after school during school year. Pretty much daily each week.

So they must live closer to you than the first son... :)

Yes they live about 2 miles away and my other grandkids live about 45 miles away.

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Hello Nancy,

Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 07-01-16 09:04 <=-

Sounds like he's turned out quite well, too... :) I'm glad you've
reconnected... :)

Yes indeed. He was a shy boy when he was little. He seems to have
matured into a good and caring adult. When I seen a picture of him and
his family which included his son. I remarked to him that his son looks
exactly like he did at that same age. One habit that my son had when he
was a 3-4 year old was to find him sitting on the kitchen floor taste
testing everything in the fridge. <g> Seems HIS son does the same thing
now that he is the same age.

Now that's funny... :) And neat... :) How old was he when he was
taken out of your life...?

Shortly after that as a matter of fact. I had some idea for a time what state he might have been in. And checked with everyone (Including agencies) that I could think of. I don't want to get too negative here but soon after mommy and daddy parted ways. I didn't hear from her at all as to where she was or how she
and my son were doing. I recently found out that he entered a foster home at some point thereafter. And was eventually adopted by someone else. Sorry, Nancy
but THAT is what gets me the most. I will stop here as I don't believe in parent
bashing regardless of what my feelings are.

The main thing as I see it Nancy is that we are in contact NOW and we both are open to starting/rebuilding a relationship. I have made a point of being honest
to my son and his questions. Regardless of own personal feelings I have avoided expressing them to my son regarding his mother. I want him to form his own opinion unaffected by my attitude.



Jeff

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Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Nancy Backus on 07-06-16 05:49 <=-

Have another son who also has a son and daughter. The boy is 13
and the girl is 9

Do you get to see them much...?

Baby sit the kids during summer and after school during school year.
Pretty much daily each week.

So they must live closer to you than the first son... :)

Yes they live about 2 miles away and my other grandkids live about 45 miles away

Both quite reachable, though... :) So far, I have no grandchildren...
My "niece=daughter" (she lived with us while she was going to college)
gave me "Grammy" rights to her kids, but they live 5-6 hours away, maybe
more, so I don't see them very often... they call me Aunt-Grammy... Not
the same... though, if they lived closer, it might have seemed more
so... ;)

ttyl neb

... If I were here more often, I wouldn't be gone so much.

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Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 07-06-16 09:54 <=-

Yes indeed. He was a shy boy when he was little. He seems to have
matured into a good and caring adult. When I seen a picture of him and
his family which included his son. I remarked to him that his son looks
exactly like he did at that same age. One habit that my son had when he
was a 3-4 year old was to find him sitting on the kitchen floor taste
testing everything in the fridge. <g> Seems HIS son does the same thing
now that he is the same age.

Now that's funny... :) And neat... :) How old was he when he was
taken out of your life...?

Shortly after that as a matter of fact.

So that would have been one of your last memories of him, too...

I had some idea for a time
what state he might have been in. And checked with everyone (Including agencies) that I could think of. I don't want to get too negative here
but soon after mommy and daddy parted ways. I didn't hear from her at
all as to where she was or how she and my son were doing. I recently
found out that he entered a foster home at some point thereafter. And
was eventually adopted by someone else. Sorry, Nancy but THAT is what
gets me the most. I will stop here as I don't believe in parent
bashing regardless of what my feelings are.

It all sounds very hurtful, all around... And you are right, parent
bashing serves no useful purpose, in any case...

The main thing as I see it Nancy is that we are in contact NOW and we
both are open to starting/rebuilding a relationship. I have made a
point of being honest to my son and his questions. Regardless of own personal feelings I have avoided expressing them to my son regarding
his mother. I want him to form his own opinion unaffected by my
attitude.

Sounds as though he might have similar feelings to yours by this
point... but in any case, the past can't be changed... and it's good to
be growing the relationship with your son and his family now... :)

ttyl neb

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